Achieving your goals and dream life…take step one!
Working in the fitness industry for 25 years, I’ve noticed that there are certain things that those who are successful at achieving their goals do on a regular basis. I’ve narrowed it down to the top 10 Tips and will share those tips over the next few weeks to help you as you prepare to launch your 2014 year – potentially the best year of your life!
Early in my career I used to get so frustrated if a client wouldn’t do what I knew they needed to do to achieve the results they wanted. I used to bang my head against the wall trying to figure out how to motivate them. Then one day, I was on a hike with my daughter Brianna and I learned my biggest lesson about goals and dreams.
We had just hiked Beacon Rock in WashingtonState, a beautiful scenic hike with amazing views of the Gorge and the Columbia River. I was getting my daughter situated in her car seat when a pick up truck pulled up beside us and two women jumped out to have a smoke. They each lit their cigarettes and then one looked towards the top of the rock that we had just climbed and stated “You know, people actually hike to the top of that rock!” The other gal took a long drag on her cigarette, looked up and then exclaimed “Why in the world would anyone ever want to do that?!”
My jaw dropped. I couldn’t believe she had just said that! I thought she would say something like “Gosh, I wish I was in good enough shape to do something like that!” or “I would love to do that” or “Maybe one day I will be able to do that!” But she had no desire, no interest for ever hiking to the top of that rock. And without any will, there is no way. So no matter what I said or programmed or suggested, nothing I could do would ever convince her to summit that rock. There was no compelling reason for her!
So it taught me that I have to help people figure out their ‘why?’ Once there is a will, there is way. But without a compelling force, success is so much more difficult. The motivation and inspiration to stick to your program or your goals is within you. You have just got to find the right reason – the reason that will make you so emotionally charged that you will take action, make the changes and stick to them regularly – no matter what!
Here is an example to demonstrate this phenomenon. Let’s imagine that you are on the 28th floor of a sky-rise building. There is a small wooden plank that extends from the window of your building to the building on the opposite side of the street. In the other building, there is a man who is holding a $10 bill and will give it to you if you walk across the plank to the other side. You look down 28 flights and you see the cars speeding by and your stomach turns into a knot. Would you go for $10? No way! How about $100? Probably not! Would you go for $1000? Still, no way! It is not worth it! But now imagine, the man is threatening to shoot one of your closest loved ones – your spouse, your daughter, son, grandchild – if you do not walk over. Now, there is a different story. You would probably, without a doubt, without even thinking about it, walk the plank. You can see by the example that the ability to walk the plank is always there. If the plank was on the first floor it would be no big deal – you could easily do it. It is never a question of ability! You just need to find that reason to walk the plank – to do something you would really rather not do. Perhaps just losing 10 pounds or decreasing your risk for cardiovascular disease is like $10 – just not enough reason to walk the plank or take action towards your goals. You will need to get more emotionally charged in order to stick to your plan. Discover what it is going to take for you and remember, everyone is different. What is going to motivate me is not necessarily going to motivate you. Keep asking yourself why, why, why and get to the heart of the matter!
So Step One is clearly laying out your goals.